I have been listening to a telesummit on love and relationships and it has been quite interesting and well worth the time invested.  One talk that peaked my interest was with Dr. John Gray.  He talked extensively on how men and women communicate and how they each deal with stress.  It was a big aha moment for me when I learned that men essentially need to come home after a stressful day and just "numb out".  They can turn everything off around them much easier than women can.  Now I know why my son and husband can come home and head for the Playstation right away, go a few rounds on Call of Duty and feel better.  Not only do they escape me but they get to complete a mission which lowers their stress levels and increases their testosterone all at the same time!  Women need to self nuture when they feel stressed.  This helps build our oxytocin levels which makes us feel sexy and relaxed and lowers our stress levels.  It was interesting to note that we are still living in a very "testosterone" environment as far as work goes.  Women's roles in the business world have changed and our days at work somewhat increase our testosterone levels so we need to get some "girlie time" in when we get home.  This girl time is essential for our libidos as well.  So guys, if you are anticipating some action from us after a long or stressful work day, run us a bath, bring us a glass of wine and leave us alone for about half an hour.  You may be surprised at the results.  A word of caution though if you have planned a little snack for after the tub, you want to avoid high carbohydrate foods as those increase the aromatase levels in the body.  This is an enzyme that helps convert testosterone to estrogen.  This is not good for either of you, especially the men.  It can seem to be a delicate balance,  these hormones of ours,  but the first step to a better and more fulfilling sex life is educating yourself on how your body works, to nuture yourself and communicate your needs to each other.  I will post more juicy info after the telesummit has ended.